Nigerian media figure and actress Toke Makinwa has ignited discussion by stating that women should avoid rushing into marriage during their 20s, emphasizing that this decade is ideal for self‑exploration and personal development.
During a recent episode of her podcast, Toke Moments, she explained that many women are still discovering who they are in their 20s and should postpone major life choices such as marriage until they have a clearer sense of self.
Why Delaying Marriage Matters
Makinwa noted that the lessons and experiences acquired in one’s twenties help shape identity and lay a stronger foundation for lasting commitments later on.
She pointed out that numerous women who wed young later realized they had acted too hastily.
Furthermore, she observed that even those who stay married often confess privately that they would have chosen a different path if given another chance.
“Women have no business getting married in their 20s… You don’t even know yourself yet. Those who did are regretting it now. Even those who are still married, if they are honest, will admit they shouldn’t have rushed it,” she remarked.
Her comments sparked a lively debate online. While some supporters agreed that personal growth should precede marriage, others contended that readiness depends more on individual maturity, values, and circumstances than on age alone.
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