Nollywood actor IK Ogbonna has finally spoken about the painful loss of his longtime friend and colleague, Alexx Ekubo.
Reflecting on the tragedy, he said the past few months have reshaced the way he views life and loss.
He observed that many people live as though there will always be another birthday, another Christmas, another trip, another conversation, or another opportunity to say, “I’ll see you next week.” But the truth is… tomorrow is a privilege, not a promise.
IK recalled the memories he shared with Alexx — travel destinations, movie ideas, business ventures, and the lives they imagined for their children. They spoke about success, legacy, and family, truly believing they had time. Neither of them imagined one would leave first.
“On May 11th, I lost my best friend and brother, Alexx. Nothing prepares you for a loss like that,” he wrote.
For the past two months he has been trying to understand life, loss, God, and why someone so full of life can suddenly become a memory.
He admitted he still does not have all the answers, and perhaps no one does. Losing Alexx forced him to ask questions he had never really considered before:
Why do we live the way we do? Why do we chase tomorrow as though it signed a contract with us? Why do we postpone love? Why do we postpone forgiveness? Why do we postpone phone calls?
Why do we convince ourselves there will always be another birthday? Another Christmas? Another trip? Another conversation? Another “I’ll see you next week.” The truth is… tomorrow is a privilege. Not a promise. All we truly own is this moment. Then another day comes… another night goes… until one day… our own night becomes our last.
“Alexx and I spoke about everything. We laughed about growing old. We dreamed about businesses. Movies we wanted to create. Places we wanted to travel. The lives we imagined for our children. Success. Legacy. Family. We truly believed we had time. Neither of us imagined one of us would leave first. Life had another plan. Or perhaps… God had a different plan.”
As painful as it is, he said he has found peace believing that God’s wisdom is greater than his own. There are questions his heart still asks that his mind cannot answer, but faith reminds him that not every answer is meant to be understood on this side of eternity.
His greatest comfort is knowing that Alexx truly lived — he loved, he gave, he laughed loudly, he showed up, he carried people, he believed in others.
There are still moments he instinctively reaches for his phone, wanting to call Alexx. Moments when he hears something funny and thinks, “Alexx has to hear this.” Then reality quietly reminds him… he can’t. And that pain never truly leaves. You learn to carry it differently.
“Alexx… My brother… Thank you. For every conversation. Every correction. Every laugh. Every disagreement that made us stronger. Thank you for believing in me. Thank you for trusting me enough to call me your brother. It remains one of the greatest honours of my life. Until we meet again, my brother, rest well. I love you.”
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