A Nigerian woman has sparked online discussion after revealing worries about how her husband divides financial assistance between both families just half a year into their marriage.
The expectant mother, who noted she is currently without work and anticipating her first baby, expressed discomfort that her husband regularly provides money to his own parents and siblings but has never done the same for her relatives.
She stated in a post on X that her husband brings home ₦280,000 each month and reportedly sets aside ₦80,000 monthly for his parents and siblings.
She also mentioned that he allocates ₦150,000 to her for household expenses and personal upkeep.
However, she contended that this setup leaves scarcely any room for her to help her own family, particularly amid the nation’s increasing cost of living.
When she shared the incident online, she wrote:
“I’m married and pregnant with my first baby. I’m not working. Hubby is earning 280k monthly. He gives his parents and siblings 80k monthly.”
“Gives me 150k but has never given my parents or siblings money for 6 months that we have been married.”
“I told him we need to be rotating it. At least give your parents this month and give mine next month. He said no. If I want to give my parents, I should do that from 150k he gives me.”
“Things are costly. The 150k isn’t even enough and he’s saying I should take from it.”
The post rapidly generated a range of reactions on social media, with many users discussing whether a husband bears responsibility for financially aiding his wife’s extended family.
Some supporters of the husband argued that the ₦150,000 he gives his wife already constitutes a considerable share of his earnings, and she could opt to use part of it to assist her own relatives if she desired.
Conversely, others maintained that marriage ought to entail equitable support for both sides of the family, especially when one spouse is financially reliant because of pregnancy or joblessness.
Numerous commentators also highlighted the economic pressures confronting many Nigerian homes, pointing out that covering rent, food, medical care, transport, and familial duties on a ₦280,000 income can already be quite tight.
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