A 46-year-old Nigerian woman has generated online discussion after sharing why marriage has never been a priority for her.
In a widely shared video, she stated she has never been married, engaged, or shown interest in matrimony.
Marriage Was Never a Goal for Me
She explained that she has never fantasized about weddings or looked forward to marriage.
Although she had past relationships, including one lasting up to five years, she never felt the desire to settle down.
“I’m 46 years old, Nigerian, Yoruba, I have never been married before, I have never been engaged, I’ve never looked at wedding pictures, I’ve never looked at wedding dresses, I’ve never looked at venues, I’ve never even come close to it.”
A Personal Decision
She emphasized that her choice is not due to lack of male attention or rejection.
“Before you assume no man likes me, I have been in relationships lasting two years, with the longest around four or five years, but marriage has never been a priority for me. I simply do not want this, ever since I was young.”
Childhood Shaped My Perspective
Reflecting on her upbringing in Nigeria, she described growing up in a stable, professional household where her parents remained together until her mother’s passing.
However, observing marriages around her over the years influenced her attitude toward matrimony.
Analyzing Marriage Through Data and Experience
Describing herself as a data analyst currently studying data engineering and AI, she said she relies on historical data and patterns to guide decisions.
“I’m a data analyst. Right now, I’m in a data engineering class and one thing I understand is that when you want to predict the future, you collect data and you go by history.”
She noted that examining past and present marriages in her community shaped her thinking.
“You look at history. You consider the history of marriages in our communities, the current marriages around you, everything I’ve witnessed growing up—how grandfathers treated grandmothers, how fathers treated mothers, how mothers endured and suffered.”
“Since a young age, I told myself, Temitayo, marriage will not be your portion.”
“My biggest fear is to be bound to a disrespectful man and live miserably with him. I would rather be miserable alone. I have never seen excitement or love in marriage; every married woman I know appears unhappy, and I have not encountered a couple I aspire to emulate. I have yet to meet a Nigerian husband—Yoruba, Igbo, or Hausa—whom I would want as my partner, given how they treat their wives. Why would I tie myself to such men when I have seen nothing worthwhile, aside from unverified social media portrayals?”
“I’m a 46-year-old Nigerian Yoruba woman and I’ve never been married. I’ve never been engaged, never looked at wedding pictures or dresses, though I have dated in the past. These things have never been a priority for me” — Lady reveals
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